The problem of discrimination in the treatment of the children of the most common problems that adversely affect the mental health of the child that may accompanies it throughout his life, and is a global problem afflicting children, no matter what sex, race, marital status, even in the major industrialized countries. In spite of the increased awareness of the psychological effects of this behavior, many parents are still discriminated between their children for one reason or another.
And dealing with a lot of psychological studies the devastating effects of this phenomenon, and the most recent Canadian study long conducted by researchers from the University of Toronto and the University of Mackstr published in the journal Child Development (journal Child Development), pointed out that the treatment of a child negatively and distinguish a child for another is not reflected negatively on the a child who is treated badly, but extends its effects to the rest of the children in the family. And spotted this study also found that parents who are subjected to psychological pressure they mostly tend to treat children differently from each other.
Analysis of the causes of discrimination
* Most of the previous studies have focused on the negative impact of the different treatment of a child who suffers from discrimination, but this study dealt with the rest of the children, and also try to understand the reasons that lead parents to such behavior. The analysis dealt with 400 Canadian families with children between the ages of two and five years.
The new study, they did not deal with two children only, and notice if one has a different treatment from the other, but it took up to four children per family, allowing her observation of the behavior of the psychological interaction for all the family and every child in the family unit. And relied on observations of mothers from their children, as well as note the behavior of children in homes.
The study also focused on a particular mother. The researchers collected information about the mothers' education, and if Be Anhdrn to families together or suffered from various psychological pressure. Has been monitoring the cumulative impact of many of the risk factors that are in pressure (tension) psychological (stress) experienced by the mother, whether in the past or in the present time, such that the mother raising children on their own, or to suffer the family financial difficulties, or the mother insulted or beaten from the father, and other psychological pressures, showing that whenever the mother suffered the largest number of pressures increased the likelihood that the distinction in treatment between her children more than other mothers that are exposed to less psychological pressure.
The study indicated that mothers who have suffered from the increasing pressure have shown a significant difference in sentiment between a child and another depending on the nature of the child, in the sense that it makes sense that a mother who suffers from psychological stress are not patient enough with naughty child has resort to Tanifa. It can be used as physical abuse or yelling at the point or so, while the child does not enjoy a quieter such abuse, whether physical or psychological, which is a big gap in treatment, and negatively impact on all children. The increase in risk factors for the mother associated with the presence of psychological problems such as aggressiveness and lack of focus and turbulent emotions even for the rest of the brothers who were not exposed to discrimination or to the brother who had a highlight positive.
This may seem strange, but the researchers attributed to the fact that the brother who has a positive discrimination could feel the other is guilty as a result of the deal is fair, and the turmoil in behavior as a kind of objection to such a transaction and send a subliminal to the rest of the brothers that he was not involved in discrimination against them, and therefore psychologically troubled mother could pave to broadcast negative feelings among all family members.
Various factors
* The study also showed that if there are some circumstances in which parents have to pay attention to a child more than the other for different reasons depending on several factors such as the age of the child. For example, you can prefer parents youngest child in the Age of oldest child may have this preference is due to the nature of the young child and adopted almost entirely on the mother, but must in this case that the mother explained the simplified child largest in the Age of the need to provide care for the brother younger even allow him to grow up and be just like his brother, and thus replacement emotions negative, such as jealousy and feeling of attention, feelings more positive, such as kindness and attention brother younger, and also, in exceptional cases, such as the child that is indistinguishable suffers from a chronic disease that requires the attention of parents and their preference.
The study also indicated that children can understanding in the event of a real motive, but the opposite happens in the absence of strong incentives for discrimination can not explain it to the children in a simplified that this brother needs more care because of this exceptional circumstance.
Bad results
And summed up this theory simply to distinguish parents of a child from the other makes a child who is treated negatively loses confidence in himself and starts to compare himself to others (the rest of the brothers), and feels worse than his brothers, and a reflection comparable Originally performed by parents Highlight a child from the other, both consciously or unconsciously. In general, the child can hardly coexist with comparison outside the home between him and his brothers, but the comparison inside the house feel child neglect and lack of value and self-confidence crash. These children are more likely to engage in bad habits they reach adolescence, such as smoking, drinking alcohol or drug addiction, could be involved in criminal activities such as theft, and resort to fraud and deception and can sometimes attempted suicide.
And parents must come to grips that every child has a personal differ from the other and not necessarily have to be brothers Michabhi foul and differing personal should not result in discrimination in the treatment, for example, in the case of a child quiet foul and another continued good activity mother can understand the nature of the difference does not punish the child continued good activity except in the case did wrong (in the sense that they are not punished just because a lot of movement or speech compared to the child of the other), and it is imperative for the mother to show compassion and care equally equality for all children, and not to resort to the method of comparison constantly even at For stimulus (like comparing the academic performance of a child for the other brother).
